Brigitte Mena talks dating game on new single “Honeybee”
Over the past (almost) two years, many have chosen to reflect and consider what makes us flourish. For some, this means spending more time with loved ones. For others, it is about distancing oneself from those who no longer bring us joy. For singer-songwriter Brigitte Mena, both were needed throughout the ongoing pandemic.
During the pandemic, Mena, 28, ended a three-year relationship. Over the past year, Mena has learned to find solace in her own company, embraced hobbies, and chooses to put effort into platonic friends.
“It has been the best year of my life,” Mena said. “I didn’t know how to be single. I didn’t know how to be alone. And I also realize that I have lost a lot of connection with my friends. When you enter into a long-term relationship, you spend the majority of your time with that person. I made a promise to myself after that. I can no longer take this road. I have to take time for myself, take time for my friends, and really focus on myself.
On his latest album, Element, which was released last summer, Mena sings on guitar and instrumental drums about love, life and loss. “Unfinished Business” is a folk / alt-rock song about the dreams she had about her father, who passed away years ago. “Captain & Crook” is a song inspired by Peter Pan on which she swears to always protect her younger sister. “Maniac” is inspired by the Netflix limited series Maniacal, with Jonah Hill and Emma Stone.
When writing Element, Mena felt frustrated, she said, with a lack of inspiration for songwriting. She challenged herself to seek inspiration in her normal elements.
“I need to be in an emotional state to write something,” Mena says. “For Element, I wanted to look outside of this lens.
“I basically felt like I was that flower; sort of rooted and stuck in this place in my life. And the bee was the experience I had with dating. – Brigitte Ména
She took a similar approach when writing “Honeybee,” her latest single, released last month. On “Honeybee”, she returns to the dating game after embracing her single status. “If I had one simple wish… I would be free as a bird, golden as a bee, cutting out what made me weak,” she sings over the ballad, acknowledging the fact that she has withdrawn from her. life of the things that hindered its growth. .
“I got into gardening during COVID,” says Mena. “I noticed this bee on this flower, and it was just a really beautiful moment. To me, I basically felt like I was that flower; sort of rooted and stuck in this place in my life. And the bee was the experience I had with dating; how people can just come into your life and take what they need from you. And then once they have that, they can calm down.
In real life, Mena is in no rush to get back into dating. She tried dating apps “for about two months” before finally removing them, citing red flags like “only being in town for one night” or “all the photos from the gym.”
Perhaps it was Mena’s psychologist who allowed her to see these red flags. At Southern Methodist University, she studied vocal performance and psychology, as she originally intended to become a therapist or counselor. His first album, Maslow, is inspired by the hierarchy of needs of psychologist Abraham Maslow, and even “Honeybee”, it is inspired by symbiotic relationships and the theory of attachment.
But music remains Mena’s true love. When not writing songs for herself, she performs covers in a band called Midnight Soul, which formed last summer, drawing inspiration from The Weeknd, Michael Jackson and Stevie Wonder.
Over the next year, Mena plans to release several new singles inspired by her regained freedom, including a song about her dog and a song about the ghost. She has written a new album, “acoustically speaking,” and plans to work with her band to record the songs.
“The theme of this album is basically my experience with all this year of growing and learning how to be – I don’t mean single, but by myself,” Mena says, “and really figuring out how to navigate. in this world like, as an individual and not depending on someone else to grow.