When it’s time to get away… dating apps
Instead of confusing people, pause and focus on your other priorities. Bumble will be there when you return.
You’re not motivated to date
If the scanning has gotten monotonous, the messaging has gotten boring, and first dates feel more like an obligation than something you’re eager to do, you’re doing yourself a disservice by forcing yourself to keep going.
There’s a ton of reasons why you’re just feeling let down by the dating process, or maybe there’s no exact reason at all – you’re just not into it right now.
Do the things that make you happy: read a book, go for a walk, or meet a friend for coffee. You’ll be surprised at how rejuvenated you’ll feel about dating someone and not thinking about it for a few days.
The meeting has become a game
While getting lots of matches, likes, or messages can be a boost to self-esteem, that’s not the point of online dating. For most, the end result of online dating is having your profile deleted because you found that special someone. So when you find yourself bragging to your friends about the hottie who banged you, maybe it’s time to re-evaluate what you’re looking for.
Breaks from online dating are not only a good idea for your mental well-being, but they might even be a necessary step in your search for a successful partner. How much fun are you going to have in a flirtatious conversation or on a date if your mind is in a million different places?
Chances are you feel tempted to check your accounts and are inundated with thoughts such as, “What if my dream match has just joined and will be gone by the time I’m ready?” Just resist those urges and put yourself first.
While it’s definitely a juggling act, making sure dating is a balanced part of your life will help you feel ready and excited when the right person comes along. This is the ultimate goal.
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Erika Ettin is the founder of A Little Nudge, where she helps others navigate the often daunting world of online dating.